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Finding my feet as a new mummy

It’s been very quiet on the blog lately, I haven’t posted anything in over a month. In truth I’ve been struggling to find my feet as a new mum again, something that I wasn’t really prepared for third time around. There’s a big age gap between my youngest and Darcey, 7 years, and I can safely say I’d forgotten the whole baby stage.

Over the last few years I’ve had a lot of time to myself. Whist I was recovering from back surgery I was alone at home, when back at work I often worked at home alone. I actually quite like my own company and value that ‘me time’. I think I’d become quiet selfish before Darcey was born.

I’ve been struggling to find ‘me’ again since she was born and I’ve only had about 5 hours away from her during the daytime since she arrived in January. Although when she’s not with me I’m worrying about her and wish I was with her.

Having a new baby seems to have consumed everything about me and I just wish I had just a few hours every now and then to pop out and do something like get my hair cut or go shopping. I’m not sure if it’s wrong to feel like this can anyone else relate?

It’s not even like she’s a difficult baby although we do have the odd screaming day when I can’t put her down to even get a drink or something to eat. On the whole she is amazing and so much easier than her brothers were.

I started feeling like this around the time I stopped expressing milk for her. Maybe it’s down to the change in hormones now I’m no longer feeding. Or maybe it’s because I now have the option of leaving her if I wanted too as she has a bottle.

So whilst I’ve been feeling pretty sorry for myself and down in the dumps I really haven’t felt like blogging. In the evenings I’ve been so tired that I’ve just slumped in front of the TV and watched rubbish.

Anyway the sun is now finally shinning and I need to get myself out of this rut and start thinking a bit more positively. We’ve got lots of fun things to look forward to over the summer and I need to make the most of my time at home. Before I know it my maternity leave will be over and it will be back to work.

 

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9 Comments

  • Reply G

    I can totally relate! I think it can be just as overwhelming as it was the very first time. Don’t feel bad about wanting ‘me time’ I think its so important to have it! xxx

    May 11, 2016 at 9:22 pm
  • Reply This Mama Life

    Bless you, becoming a mama, whether it’s your first time or your tenth time, is still a testing time and can often be very hard work. Definitely make time for yourself and try and get out and about as much as you can. I found getting out inspired me to be more productive and channel my energy where I wanted it. Hope you’re ok! ?

    May 10, 2016 at 10:55 pm
  • Reply aliceyoung8

    Ah sorry you’ve been struggling a bit, being a new mum is so difficult and like you said you probably forgot a lot of the little things. It’s so important to find YOU in the mum part! Get some time to yourself for a walk or a pamper! Hopefully the sun comes back and gives you some more motivation for the blog 🙂 x

    May 10, 2016 at 10:12 pm
  • Reply Kelly Pattullo

    I have all this to come. I guess technically I’m not out of the baby stage yet as my son is almost two and a half but for a long time now he has been so independent and it hasn’t really felt like I had a baby. But baby no2 will be here in 9 weeks (crosses fingers) and I have forgotten what it’s like to hold a newborn. I hope you feel a bit more normal soon lovely.

    May 10, 2016 at 11:53 am
  • Reply Kerry

    I can defintiely relate to this. The only me time I have now is when I’m at work which I’m grateful for but its not time i can de-stress and actually relax. If you don’t already, do the food shop on your own or nip to the shops at the weekend without the kids xx

    May 10, 2016 at 10:58 am
  • Reply Harriet from Toby & Roo

    I can only imagine how hard it is to go back to it all. My kids are all really close together in age so I’ve had baby after baby. Good luck and don’t feel bad about taking time to adjust! H x

    May 10, 2016 at 10:13 am
  • Reply Azaria Lynch (@beingMrsLynch)

    I can very much relate to this. I only have one child but I am with her 24/7 and still breastfeeds at 14 months. Living so far from family means we have no babysitters and if I leave her with Hubby and I am still in the house she desperately wants to be with me and if I go out in all honesty I have nowhere to go without them Its such a hard juggling act trying to find that me time and spending time with her.

    Azaria- Being Mrs Lynch

    May 9, 2016 at 8:57 pm
  • Reply Kerry Norris

    I know exactly how you feel lovely. In fact I had a total mental breakdown about this just on the weekend. I am desperate for some me time. Even if it was to just sit in a coffee shop for an hour. I’m very much struggling to settling into life with 2 kids. As you say maternity leave will be over before we know it. You’re not alone in your thoughts so don’t worry. Chin up and enjoy any time you get xx

    May 9, 2016 at 7:51 pm
  • Reply Harriet Lee

    I can definitely relate. Having a new baby is so overwhelming at times and it’s normal to feel like you need a break sometimes. Maybe see if you can grab a few hours to yourself at some point to go get your hair cut and pop to the shops. I’m sure you will feel much better for it afterwards. All Mamas need some me time sometimes. XO

    May 9, 2016 at 10:32 am
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